30 November: Nancy’s Notes and Anecdotes

Quote I’m pondering:

“To listen is to lean in, softly, with a willingness to be changed by what we hear.” -Mark Nepo

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On my reading list:

The Cozy Issue by Bella Grace Magazine. Have you ever started reading something that is sooo wonderful that you force yourself to slow down because you don’t want it to end?? Well that is what is happening to me as I read this incredible magazine. Do yourself a favor and pick up a copy and indulge in the stories and the recipes and the invitations to take things slowly and embrace the “coziness” of life. The piece by Elle Harris invites you to create a bank account of comfort: “We all experience bits and pieces of contentment, but wouldn’t it be grand to chase tranquility the same we run after accomplishments and accolades?

What if you created comfort lists like bank accounts depositing memories of positive associations that you could dip into whenever you needed to enrich a part of yourself?” AND she shares lists of things you can deposit into your bank account of comfort. I hope you share it with important people in your life.

While I was thinking about comfort, I stumbled into this fascinating topic: according to Wikipedia – Hygge is a Danish and Norwegian word for a mood of coziness and comfortable conviviality with feelings of wellness and contentment. As a cultural category with its sets of associated practices hygge has more or less the same meanings in Danish and Norwegian, but the notion is more central in Denmark than Norway. There are a few hygge groups on Facebook, FYI. I just joined and am looking forward to joining the conversation.


Meetings this week:

I’m so excited to be about to start Day 1 of our new program called Her Dreamers Retreat … this is the day where we start with a blank slate … the event itself is 3 chock-full days geared to helping women employees transition from employee to business owners, elegantly, efficiently and with as much courage, creativity and as many connections as possible.

I can’t wait to watch the ‘a-ha’ moments, the confidence and the plans to turn dreams into reality unfold. This is truly one of the most favorite parts of my job – I get to pass on my umpteen years of experience to help women shorten their learning curve when making this type of special career move. The saying that goes something along the lines of ‘even the expert was a beginner’ comes to mind … it’s not as hard as most people think!

I’d love to tell you more about this exciting new direction we are taking or if you’re interested in attending one of our boutique retreats, message me here.


Ideas I’m Noodling…

From Mark Nepo’s interview on the Good Life Project: In Hindu there is a term called Upaguru which means the teacher that is next to you. Sometimes we are the upa guru and sometimes it is literally the person next to us or ahead of us… what they do and how they do it teaches us and informs us (if we allow it!). And, we have a choice to embrace the lesson and incorporate it –or embrace the lesson and reject it as something we don’t want.

By the same token, knowing that I am the Upaguru will make me act more intentionally and more gratefully… how about you Natalie, which side do you find yourself on and why? Tell me here.

A little background I found when I was enjoying stumbling from one website to another … I landed on Inspired Yearth and have to share her clear explanation of the concept:

“[guru] broken down, the word actually means going from darkness into the light. So, a Guru is someone who leads you from dark (unknowing) and helps you into the light (knowledge).

The word Upaguru means the teacher nearby. Since everyone and anyone that crosses our path does so for a reason, they all should be looked upon as an Upaguru with something to teach you. Some of our Upagurus flit through our life for but a moment; literally, minutes. Others seem to stick around until we have caught on to the lesson and maybe then they move on.”

Wow, just wow … don’t you agree?!

I’m following…

Mark Nepo. Can’t wait to read his latest book More Together Than Alone, I just ordered it on Amazon the other day – it’s incredible how far we’ve come, don’t you think Natalie? Nowadays, at the press of a button, from wherever I am, I can order a book and it arrives at my door within a few days. Anywho, check out the interview he did on the Good Life Podcast with Jonathan Fields: ‘To succeed at anything, do this.’ Amazing, just ah-mazing!

I’m Celebrating…

The arrival of a world map that is big enough to cover half a wall in my office… I love looking at it and remembering all the places I’ve been and all the places left on my bucket list. I’ve had a passport since I was 10 and I am proud to call myself a citizen of the world. The furthest I’ve been is China where I walked on Tiananmen Square, visited the Forbidden City and climbed the great wall. I’ve straddled the equator in Ecuador and prayed on the Pyramid of the Moon in Teotihuacan, Mexico. I’ve been to the Sanskrit Institute in India where I got to see and marvel at books that were over 3,000 years old. Oh yes, and I’ve even been on the Marrakesh Express in Morocco…

And there are so many more places to visit and explore still on my list (and I keep adding more~ I’m looking forward to adding pins for all the places I’ve been and will go to!).

Do you have plans to travel this holiday season?? How about next year – have you started to plan it? Where have you visited? Where do you want to go? I would love to hear about it! Tell me here.


Wishing you a wonderful week ahead … I look forward to hearing from you…
Nancy Allen